Screen time use amongst kids has increased dramatically in the past couple of years. Families are struggling to curb not only their child’s use but in a lot of cases their own use of screen time. This post will highlight ideas and concepts to help manage the use of screen time so your family can maintain a healthy relationship with technology.
How Screen-Hungry Is Your Child?
Does your child have too much screen time?
The Art of Screen Time
How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life
Making Family Screen Time Rules
• Get clear. Use these questions to gain clarity for yourself, then talk with your family to make your own rules.
• Change as needed. Screen time rules can be re-evaluated as your family perspectives shift and needs evolve.
• Post ’em. Write down your rules and post where everyone can see them to help keep everyone accountable
Screen Time Considerations:
- When does it feel like screen time is most disruptive to our family? What are my kids like when they get too much media?
- How much screen time are my kids getting now? (school work, family together time, free time etc. You may wish to track a week to find out)
- How do I use Screens for work and play? What are my own limits and struggles?
- When would it be convenient for the kids to do media?
- What are my biggest fears or concerns about media usage?
- When is media enriching? When is it replacing an activity I want my kids to be doing instead?
Setting Clear Expectations:
Examples in parentheses are not prescriptions, just ideas to get you thinking – what works for your family?
- What constitutes screen time in your family? Which devices are used, and which are off limits for kids? List each device, how it can be used (i.e. – Tablet: for educational use only – no games. Mom’s phone: totally at her discretion and no games, TV: PS3, Netflix…)
- When are absolute no-screen times of day or events? (before school, at the table, when saying hello/goodbye etc. Use your answer above about ‘when media is most disruptive’ as well as your family values to make choices about this.)
- When are screens allowed?
- When will you make exceptions? (travel, sickness, homework etc…)
- What must be completed before screen time? (chores, homework, outside play etc.)
- Where can devices be used? How will I monitor this activity? (devices in bedrooms? behind a closed door? age dependent? require password access? etc.)
- When do kids have to ask permission from a parent? (downloading games? YouTube? at friend’s houses? when posting online? etc.)
- What are the rules about giving out personal information? (name, address, contact info)
- How should kids interact with guests and screens? (Greetings?Goodbyes?Is media allowed while friends are over?)
- What actions will take away screen time privileges?
- What are the consequences if your trust is breached?
- How should kids treat electronics? What are the consequences if people mistreat electronics?
Fill out the We Can! Screen Time Chart to see how much time your family spends in front of a screen. Keep one chart for each person.
Screen Time Parenting Tips (Common Sense Media)
- Making Screen Time Limits with Younger Kids – Article on The (Reformed) Idealist Mom on including your child in the conversation.
- Creating a ‘Media Diet’ – Article on Common Sense Media on looking at screen time in a more nuanced, less black and white way.