So as many of you may know, I write my blog posts in conjunction with events that occur at my school sites. This post has been the most difficult to date. The size and scope of an incident like this occurring on an elementary campus is devastating. I really encourage that parents, teachers, and community members at large help to teach our kids the tools and skills to stay safe.
1 out of 10 children will be sexually abused before they turn 18. Chances are, someone you know has been impacted. Research shows that people who are sexually violated as children are far more likely to experience psychological problems often lasting into adulthood, including post-traumatic stress syndrome, depression, suicide, substance abuse, teen pregnancy, school dropout and relationship problems. (Source)
Resources for recognizing sexual abuse:
- How Can I Tell: A Parent’s Guide to Recognizing Sexual Abuse (pdf)
- Preventing Sexual Abuse: Tips for Parents (pdf)
- Sex Abuse Fact Sheet (pdf)
Talking to your child about sexual abuse.
Talking to Children About Sexual Abuse Great sections on ages 4-8, 9-13, and 14-18. Explicitly lays out “What to do?” What to Say?”
By: Sean Brotherson, Ph.D., Family Science Specialist, NDSU Extension Service
How To Talk About Sexual Abuse Safety Webpage with more information
Circles of Intimacy
Books To Educate Children About Preventing Sexual Abuse
It’s My Body
by Lory Freeman (Parenting Press, 1984)
Keeping Kids Safe: A Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Manual
by Pnina Tobin, Sue Levinson Kessner (Hunter House Publishers; 2nd edition, 2002)
The Most Important Rule of All
by Pam Church
(Prevention And Motivation Programs, Inc., 1997) This book is a read-aloud storybook about child sexual abuse and protection skills for use with children ages 4-8 years.
My Body is Private
by Linda Walvoord Girard and Rodney Pate (Albert Whitman & Co., 1992)
The Right Touch: A Read-Aloud Book to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
by Sandy Kleven (Illumination Arts Publishing, 1998)
Telling Isn’t Tattling
by Kathryn Hammerseng (Parenting Press, 1996)
Those are MY Private Parts
by Diane Hansen (Empowerment Productions, 2005)
Parents and care-givers can use this read-aloud rhyme as a tool to teach children sexual abuse prevention and empower their young children to say NO. Appropriate for ages 4-8.
Your Body Belongs To You
by Cornelia Spelman (Albert Whitman & Co., 2000)
When I Was Little Like You
by Jane Porett (CWLA Press, 2000)