Developing friendships and maintaining healthy play is a cornerstone to a child’s education. Within the school is a safe place to practice and try out friendships and try different types of play. It is our job as parents and teachers to take advantage of the opportunities that come with peer conflict to provide the child/ children with an teachable moment. Here are some resources to support that effort.
Relational Aggression
Relational aggression (RA) is a nonphysical form of aggression whereby the perpetrator’s goal is to inflict or threaten damage to relationships, including harm to the target child’s social standing or reputation. This form of aggression may result in long-term psychological harm to victims. Source
RELATIONAL AGGRESSION – Overview
Dealing with Relational Aggression and Children: A Guide for Parents
Research Article It’s mean boys, not mean girls, who rule at school, study shows
Education Article Study: Boys, Not Just ‘Mean Girls,’ Use Relational Aggression
Little Bullies: Relational Aggression on the Playground
Resources From The Ophelia Project
Practical Strategies for Teachers- 5 STEPS for Teachers
Boys
Boys Relational Aggression Curriculum
Girls
Girls Relational Aggression Curriculum
Other Resources
Understanding Playful vs. Hurtful Teasing and Bullying Behavior
Books
I Didn’t Know I Was a Bully (Grades K-5) Paperback – 2006
Tease Monster: A Book About Teasing Vs. Bullying (Building Relationships) Paperback – by
Relational Aggression in Young Adults: Relational Aggression in Peer and Dating Relationships, Gender Difference, Attribution Bias, Emotional Distress Paperback – by
The author Trudy Ludwig Bullying books.
Building Momentum in Schools 