Developing friendships and maintaining healthy play is a cornerstone to a child’s education. Within the school is a safe place to practice and try out friendships and try different types of play. It is our job as parents and teachers to take advantage of the opportunities that come with peer conflict to provide the child/ children with an teachable moment. Here are some resources to support that effort.
Relational aggression (RA) is a nonphysical form of aggression whereby the perpetrator’s goal is to inflict or threaten damage to relationships, including harm to the target child’s social standing or reputation. This form of aggression may result in long-term psychological harm to victims. Source
RELATIONAL AGGRESSION – Overview
Dealing with Relational Aggression and Children: A Guide for Parents
Research Article It’s mean boys, not mean girls, who rule at school, study shows
Education Article Study: Boys, Not Just ‘Mean Girls,’ Use Relational Aggression
Little Bullies: Relational Aggression on the Playground
Resources From The Ophelia Project
Practical Strategies for Teachers- 5 STEPS for Teachers
Boys Relational Aggression Curriculum
Girls Relational Aggression Curriculum
Understanding Playful vs. Hurtful Teasing and Bullying Behavior
I Didn’t Know I Was a Bully (Grades K-5) Paperback – 2006
Tease Monster: A Book About Teasing Vs. Bullying (Building Relationships) Paperback – by
Relational Aggression in Young Adults: Relational Aggression in Peer and Dating Relationships, Gender Difference, Attribution Bias, Emotional Distress Paperback – by
The author Trudy Ludwig Bullying books.
Bullying is characterized by aggression used within a relationship where the aggressor(s) has more real or perceived power than the target, and the aggression is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying can involve overt physical behavior or verbal, emotional, or social behaviors (e.g., excluding someone from social activities, making threats, withdrawing attention, destroying someone’s reputation) and can range from blatant aggression to far more subtle and covert behaviors. Cyberbullying, or bullying through electronic technology (e.g., cell phones, computers, online/social media), can include offensive text messages or e-mails, rumors or embarrassing photos posted on social networking sites, or fake online profiles.
Source: Dear Colleague Letter: MS Word (91KB) | PDF (1.4MB)
Effective Evidence-based Practices for Preventing and Addressing Bullying
And Hollywood is in on this too!
STOMP Out Bullying
Books on Bullying
The app from SAMHSA
Middle Schools can be a tough place to navigate socially for all children. For children who have cognitive and social deficits it can be especially difficult. Recently while looking into different options to help support kids on our campus, I ran across the Ohio Center For Autism and Low Incidence (OCALI) website. On the site it has a multitude of resources including some on the topic of Bullying. They have an easy to implement anti-bullying intervention called “Be an Upstander”.
Anti-Bullying Supports for Peers: Be An Upstander
Be an Upstander is a video for use with middle- and high-school students. It demonstrates strategies that can turn bystanders (persons not directly involved in the bullying incident) into Upstanders, those who can help diffuse a bullying situation. Resources to help facilitators use this video include a Facilitator Guide and Strategy List.
Webcast and Resource Materials on Bullying
Stats from the Autism Safety Site:
A 2009 survey on bullying revealed the following:
- 65% of parents reported that their children with Asperger’s syndrome had been victimized by peers in some way within the past year
- 47% reported that their children had been hit by peers or siblings
- 50% reported them to be scared by their peers
- 9% were attacked by a gang and hurt in the private parts
- 12% indicated their child had never been invited to a birthday party
- 6% were almost always picked last for teams
- 3% ate alone at lunch every day
Source: Issues in Comprehensive Pediatric Nursing (2009)