All parents want their kids to experience social success. Here are some strategies to help instill good social skills in your children.
Milestones
Milestones are important to reflect upon because you have to know first what is age appropriate.
Social Skills Milestones
By one:
- smiles spontaneously
- responds differently to strangers than to familiar people
- pays attention to own name
- responds to no
- copies simple actions of others
Between ages one and two:
- recognizes self in mirror or picture
- refers to self by name
- plays by self; initiates own play
- imitates adult behaviors in play
- helps put things away
Between ages two and three:
- plays near other children
- watches other children; joins briefly in their play
- defends own possessions
- begins to play house
- symbolically uses objects, self in play
- participates in simple group activity
- knows gender identity
Between ages three and four:
- joins in play with other children; begins to interact
- shares toys; takes turns with assistance
- begins dramatic play, acting out whole scenes
Between ages four and five:
- plays and interacts with other children
- dramatic play is closer to reality, with attention paid to detail, time, and space
- plays dress-up
- shows interest in exploring sex differences
Between ages five and six:
- chooses own friends
- plays simple table games
- plays competitive games
- engages in cooperative play with other children involving group decisions, role assignments, fair play
Learning Disabilities Association of America (1999)
Articles:
Parents Help to Encourage Social Success at Home, Too!
Social Skills for Children with ADHD
Tools
Great examples: Parents Promoting Emotional and Social Competence in Young Children
101 ways to teach social skills
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